The Winning Attitude -8


Enthusiasm is that unsaid words that we often take for granted, but means a lot to the person we are #communicating with.

It can be partly described as ‘body language’ or #emotional response.

About two years ago, a friend of mine was working on a private #project that meant a lot to him. I was privy to the info as a close #confidante.

One day, he hit a stumbling block. In that distress, he tried to figure out a way around the #temporary setback, so he called me.

According to him, after he had explained the challenges, all I said was; “OK!”

He said he held the phone waiting for some seconds for further suggestions or advice from my end, or at worst, words of #consolation, just to show #empathy, but nothing came forth.

He stood at the spot beside the road where he made that call for about three to five minutes ruminating over what just happened.

Do you know that I could not remember when all this happened? And it almost ruined our relationship if not that we were mature enough to address it and I apologize for exhibiting such a shameful attitude.

You see, when someone goes all out to buy a gift to ‘wow’ you, and then you receive the gift and kept a stoic face like still waters without emotions, you have blocked that road.

Even among couples, the lack of #enthusiasm and #excitement from a partner when his/her spouse expects it can create a gap in the relationship.

And when the gap is allowed to widen, they will soon become strangers living together.

Enthusiasm is #contagious. It sends a message to show whether you care or not.

When you get a #wow gift, don’t act the ‘I am not a freak’ or “I am not moved by these” kind of attitude; give out the exclamation! Be #expressive!

“Wow that is so thoughtful of you!”

“Are all these for me? I can’t believe my eyes!”

“Gracious God, what have I done to deserve all this?”

“Oh my gosh, you are such an amazing friend/husband/wife or boss”.

“What would I have been without you? You know I love you, right? “

And if it is a time to mourn or sad news:

“Oh, I am very sorry. Please if you need any help let me know”

“Oh, this is so sad. It is well”

“I am very sorry for your loss. Please know that there is a shoulder here for you to cry on”.

These are examples of emotional responses that show that you are human and you care.

It is not a sign of weakness to be emotional and enthusiastic about things.

When someone comes #happily to share an #information with you, don’t make them look foolish with your looks or response.

You know those kinds of looks that say, “so this is what you came to tell me?”


“what is exciting about what she just said that she could not wait until we get to the office?

Why did she have to drive down or call to tell me?”

That kind of attitude can ruin your #relationship.

Be human! Show empathy. Express enthusiasm!

It is a winning #attitude.

I hope the series was worthy of your time?

I would like to hear from you.

The End

Idede Oseyande


Twitter: @idede_oses

About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

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