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The Winning Attitude-6

The Winning Attitude -6

#Ungratefulness

Some years ago, I was asked to #deliver some set of #gifts to someone. When I got there, he was not around so I had to wait. After about three hours of waiting, he showed up.

His #secretary called me in and I came smiling, as people bearing gifts usually do.

I introduced myself and told him I was from so and so.

“Yeah he told me he was sending someone to my office”; he replied, barely looking at me.

I brought out the gifts in bits.

Firstly was the #shoe.

It was a foreign shoe my boss had bought when he visited #France. I presented the shoe enthusiastically. He looked at the shoe, checked out the quality, I presume, and said, ‘he should have asked for my size. I use 45, not 44’. And that was all. He placed the shoe by the side of his chair.

I brought out two long sleeves shirts and a tie too. He looked at them, mumbled some words which I did not hear clearly, and then kept it aside.

The next item was #perfume. I just left it inside and told him that was all.

“Ok, greet so and so for me”, he said, without any special message of appreciation for the sender or the gifts.

I walked out of his office and left to deliver a similar set of gifts to someone else.

This other man was in the office when I came, but he had visitors, so I waited for my turn. When I got him, he knew I came from far and the first thing he said was,

“I hope you are not planning on going back today because it is already late”.

It was already past 3 pm on that day. His show of concern eased up the nauseating attitude the previous man exhibited which had gotten me angry.

I brought out the pair of shoes first, just as I did to the other man. He checked out the shoes.

“Oh, 44, and I wear 45. Let me try it if it will enter me”.

He slipped his right foot in and boom! It was perfectly his size. He tried the second leg and it was ok too. He stood up and took a few steps in his spacious luxurious office to test runs it. He was all smiling.

“Your #boss has good #taste. Thank him for me”, he said happily.

I brought out the next set of gifts. Two sets of long sleeves and a tie.

He checked out the shirts and knots the tie immediately.

“Your boss is spoiling me with gifts”, he said excitedly.

By the time I brought out the perfume, he was almost screaming.

“Idede, why are you bringing them out in bits. You self!”.

He took some whiffs and perceived the fragrance.

“In fact, I have to call him immediately”, he said, as he reached out for his phone.

Phone rings, he screamed his appreciation, and my boss could tell from the other end that it was an appreciation coming from the heart.

Guess what? He gifted me 5k cash as I left his office.

“Add this to your hotel bill and please don’t travel back tonight”, he counselled.

Until I left that organization, my boss does not joke with this other man that showed gratitude!

Ungratefulness or ingratitude is a negative character that must not be allowed to find a space in your life.

It can ruin the efforts of all the other winning attitudes put together.

You cannot be too #rich not to show #gratitude.

For example, no matter how #trustworthy you might be, who would want to give a helping hand to an #ingrate?

Learn to always show gratitude. Not for the volume or the #cost of the good deed but for the #gesture. The appreciation is for the #act, not the #gifts.

I hope the illustration was understood?

Idede Oseyande

© 2022

Twitter: @idede_oses

About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

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