The Winning Attitude- 1

The Winning Attitude- 1




Sometime ago, I got some bitter leaves from my farm to make herbal juice. This was after I had tried other therapy over the waist pain that came up suddenly. I was told bitter leaf juice can be very medicinal.


I brought the leaves home and placed them on the dining table and forgot them there. Some days later, I saw it dried and was surprised that it was still there. They had arranged and cleaned the table more than once but they left the dried leaves there.


“These leaves are now useless, how come you people have been cleaning this table and no one bothered to throw it away?” I asked in an accusing manner.

“Who kept it there?” my wife replied with a question.

“I did, but I forgot to use it before it got bad. So?” I replied, defensively.

“Well, I thought someone had taught on cleaning up the mess they created?she asked rhetorically.


I got the gist, and humbly picked up the dried leaves and took it outside.


To win in life you must be accountable to yourself, and those around you. Once you are not accountable, it becomes difficult for there to be an effective appraisal. And when there is no means of an appraisal, then the bar can be lowered gradually without you knowing.


Sadly enough, this has become a norm in the political space especially in Africa. Elected and appointed officers don’t want to be accountable to themselves, nor to those who they were elected or appointed to serve. Interestingly, they always find gullible foot soldiers who would go all out, both physically and online, to defend the unaccountable disposition of these leaders. The few who would dare to call them to question or to give account of their stewardship would be tagged political detractors and would be called all manner of unprintable names.


This is why democracy still looks like military dictatorship across the continent of Africa, and we are wondering why the continent has refused to grow beyond this primordial lifestyle. We are victims of our attitude. Even in the Bible, the Pharisees, Sadducees, and the Scribes, were made to give account of their stewardship by the people. That made them wary in decision making. This is why we keep reading in different instances when they could not take certain actions because they feared the people. They knew they would not have a justification for such actions.


Let us assume that the people were docile and there was no form of accountability from their leaders, so many terrible decisions would have been taken which would have plugged the society in greater chaos and confusion. It puts check and balance and helps to curtail human excesses which are prevalent when there is no accountability.


An unaccountable life is not worth living. That is why I tell those who care to listen that, the worst kind of friend or partner anyone can ever have is the one who is not accountable to anybody, except himself.


He cannot be counseled, cannot be reprimanded, and listens only to the dictates of his hearts; from such runaway! It is a disaster waiting to happen.



Idede Oseyande

© 2022

Twitter: @idede_oses

About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

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