The Self Destructive Tendencies of TMI-3

Written by Idede Oseyande

The Self Destructive Tendencies of TMI- 3

“Keep what you know to yourself, and you will be safe; talk too much, and you are done” ~ Proverbs 13:3 CEV

So many people have suffered preventable loses because they divulge ‘too much information’. Unfortunately, they tend to make the same mistake over and over again because they are yet to realise the problem. To be honest, I did not realise the problem existed until I got married.

It was my wife who first drew my attention to TMI. She overheard me having a conversation on phone and she shouted ‘TMI’ to caution me. Ignorant me, I kept on talking not knowing that she was raising a red flag, warning me of the dangers of giving out information that is not only personal but also not necessarily profitable to the hearer.

For example, the young Prophet, whom we have been using as a case study could have easily thanked the King for the kind gesture and walk away without telling him the instructions God gave him. Now, what changed after he told the King the information? Of what value was it to the King? Instead, he exposed himself to danger as the information went beyond the palace as the events that unfold have revealed to us.

The young Prophet was lied to, and he fell for it and followed the old prophet to his house to eat and drink against God’s command. While he was there, still on the dining table, the judgment of God came through the old prophet.

“And it came to pass, as they sat at the table, that the word of the LORD came unto the prophet that brought him back:

And he cried unto the man of God that came from Judah, saying, Thus saith the LORD, Forasmuch as thou hast disobeyed the mouth of the LORD, and hast not kept the commandment which the LORD thy God commanded thee,
But camest back, and hast eaten bread and drunk water in the place, of the which the Lord did say to thee, Eat no bread, and drink no water; thy carcass shall not come unto the sepulchre of thy fathers.

And when he was gone, a lion met him by the way, and slew him: and his carcass was cast in the way, and the ass stood by it, the lion also stood by the carcass.”

The young Prophet died before his time, with all the anointing he carried because he failed to realise the subtle danger of giving out too much information.

Mind you, there is a difference between a talkative and a TMI culprit. Some people are not talkative in the real sense of it, but the few times they open their mouth to speak, they might end up endangering their lives.

What practical ways in contemporary context can one be a victim of TMI?
Can someone prone to giving out too much information turn a new leaf? If yes, how?

All these and lots more will be addressed in the next article.

IDEDE Oseyande
Attitudinal & Behavioural Coach (ABC)
Author: The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader.

About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.


  • In as much as TMI is not synonymous with Talkativeness, i believe talkativeness can be a Precursor of TMI… When one talks too much one can unconsciously let out some informations that are supposed to be personal.

  • Divulging information and been a talkative is two different things,some people tall a lot but know when to draw the line.
    The young prophet didn’t apply wisdom and he obeyed man’s instruction the old prophet other than that of God.

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