The Pain Of Cain
“And Cain talked with Abel his brother: and it came to pass, when they were in the field, that Cain rose up against Abel his brother, and slew him”. ~ Gen 4: 8
If you have followed the last four articles on taking 2020 by storm, you will notice that I am not sharing any business or career-building lessons. The reason is that researchers have made us understand the role of attitude in attaining success.
Sometimes you fail not because you are lazy or using the wrong tools, it is simply because your attitude is holding you back from learning from those who are getting it right.
Cain offered a sacrifice to God, so did Abel. Although it was not stated if that was the first time they did such, it was the first time it was recorded in the Bible. Fortunately for Abel, he got it right while Cain got it wrong. One would expect that Cain would ask questions to ascertain why his sacrifice was rejected while his brother’s was accepted. Instead, he got angry.
Perhaps he felt insulted as the eldest child: if anyone would get it right, it should be him. Or maybe he was just simply jealous like those who believe they alone deserve all the good things of life; and when anyone aside them enjoy a good thing they slyly wish they were the one.
To take over 2020 by storm you must sincerely and genuinely celebrate the success of others without wishing to take their place. You might be older in age, more competent in a given field, but if the person getting the right results and glowing is not you; don’t waste useful energy hating the person. Celebrate the person genuinely and learn what the person did right that you probably did not do, or perhaps ignored.
Cain would have leveraged on the relationship he had with someone who got it right. Istead, he attracted a curse to himself. A curse he carried until his death.
Do you know that the family lineage in the creation story is through Seth and not Cain?
Killing Abel did not make Cain a success. In the same vein, hating and quarrelling with those more successful than you will not make you better than them.
As you launch out this year, avoid the Pain of Cain.
Attitude is Everything!
A & B Coach
IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.
He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.
Among his published works are ‘What is Left of What is Right?’, ‘The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader’ and ‘Warri No Dey Carry Last’.
He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.