The Hate You Give

Written by Idede Oseyande

The Hate You Give

“You cannot sow hate and expect to reap love. You reap what you sow!”

The first time I saw the character, #Ramsay Bolton, in the TV series #Game of Thrones, I wondered how someone could be so cruel and heartless. After seeing his father and how he treated him, I was no longer surprised.

Ramsay was the illegitimate son of Lord Bolton. In the series, such children were surnamed ‘Snow’. So, everyone with the Snow as the last name Snow is known to be an illegitimate child of a Lord. Lord Bolton however was different. At every given opportunity, he called Ramsay his ‘Bastard son’, and he treated him like a dog. This lack of affection with which the young man was raised turned him into a monster. When he came of age and with his father not having a legitimate child or any other children at all, he became his only heir. That forced Lord Bolton to rely on Ramsay as he started to give him certain tasks he would have preferred a legitimate child to carry out.

Even at that, Bolton made it clear that Ramsay would have to prove himself worthy to be his son; making their relationship more of a transactional deal, than blood relationship.
In the end, he was a victim of the monster he made out the boy. Ramsay murdered him as soon as he was made the official heir and added his stepmother and her new baby to the list.

There are so many monsters in our society today that were raised by us. Children raised in the worst of families cannot become good overnight. They will end up being a product of the terrible families they came from. Some people are unlovable because they were raised in cruel homes where love does not exist.
The society where the elites don’t care about the poor and downtrodden will one day face the hatred and bitterness in the heart of those they’ve abandoned.

Without trying to be judgemental, the high rate of attacks of employers by their domestic workers calls for a thorough review of how these domestic staffs are treated. The principle of cause and effect is real! And with the growing disparity between the rich and the poor, an average poor person sees a privileged rich person as the cause of their poverty. This makes many of them easily irritated and violent at the slightest provocation.

Be careful of what you give out because it will be reciprocated!

IDEDE Oseyande

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About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform ( where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

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