Opinion

Show Me Your Friend

Written by Idede Oseyande

Show Me Your Friend!

“And it came to pass at that time, that Judah went down from his brethren, and turned into a certain Adullamite, whose name was Hirah.
And Judah saw there a daughter of a certain Canaanite, whose name was Shuah; and he took her, and went in unto her” ~ Gen 38:1-2

There is a very popular cliche that says; “if you’re moving with five successful friends, in five years time, there is a possibility of you being the sixth successful person”. The same is applicable if you are in the midst of loafers and ‘never do well’, you might end up being the next loafer!

Interestingly, most people take who they keep company with levity. They never for once take time to appraise their friendship, and social circles to ascertain whether it is taking them towards their goals or away from it.

This was the case of Judah. He left his ‘brethren’, (a team of fellow travellers with the same destiny) and turned to Hirah and there he saw a lady and went into her. That was the first time that his relationship with the so-called Hirah was recorded.

Now let’s consider the second time he hung out with his #friend, Hirah.

“And in process of time the daughter of Shuah Judah’s wife died; and Judah was comforted, and went up unto his sheepshearers to Timnath, he and his friend #Hirah the Adullamite.

….when Judah saw her, he thought her to be an harlot; because she had covered her face. And he turned unto her by the way, and said, Go to, I pray thee; (for he knew not that she was his daughter-in-law.)”

If you read the full story, you will notice that the two times that Judah was with this particular friend were the two times he was involved in frivolous sexual overtures. And the second time was even worse because it was with his own daughter-in-law! If there was a third time, maybe he would have been killed by a woman.

For 2020 to be an awesome year, you must be careful with the company you keep. Unproductive friends and unproductive associations should be discontinued; even social media groups that are not nudging you towards your purposes should not be tolerated.
Stay with those who motivate and keep your focus on your set goals for the year.

Why tolerate an individual in your life because of the nuisance value, when you can actually give that space to someone else who adds real value? 🤷🏽‍♂🤷🏽‍♂

It’s already fifteen days gone from the ‘New Year’. Be choosy with who you allow into your life!

In all of this, Attitude is Everything!

IDEDE Oseyande
A & B Coach.

About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

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