Motivational Series

Retrogressive Actions- 5

Retrogressive Actions -5

By Idede Oseyande

Obsession Fueled Actions

This will be a very controversial article based on the subject matter. And I hope to read different rejoinders from all those who have a strong divergent opinion.

Be that as it may, I implore you to read with understanding before expressing your opinion(s).

Merriam Webster dictionary defines obsession thus: “a persistent disturbing preoccupation with an often unreasonable idea or feeling”.

The unreasonable nature of the idea an individual is obsessed with is known to all except the victim of obsession. So many people are obsessed with one idea or the other without them knowing. The truth is some obsession can be rewarding like that of Paul the Apostle, who was so obsessed with preaching the gospel even when it endangers his life.

“For necessity is laid upon me, and woe is I if I preach not the Gospel”.

To the Christian faith, that was a positive obsession. Howbeit, that is not our focus for now.

Felix would say he has a knack for cars. The term he uses to cover his obsession with cars. Why is he never tired of acquiring cars after he has seven luxurious cars in his expansive compound?

Here is his story. He came from a very poor background. His parents could not afford the tyre of a bicycle let alone a car. He said, during English lessons back in primary school, he never had the guts to claim ownership of a car even in a simple sentence. He never made sentences like; “this is my father’s car or my father has a car”.

The best he did was sentence like: “this is a car or Chief Ojo has a car”.

He said it was as if it were taboo if he dares to write in a sentence that his father has a car.

“My children will not pass through that psychological trauma”, he would say.

Once a car dealer sends pictures of a new luxurious and flashy car to Felix, on eight of ten occasions he will buy it.

I am sure you are like Felix or you know someone who acts just like him. You buy clothes, shoes, jewelry, or take expensive trips and vacations just to appease a subtle obsession that you have developed due to experiences of the past.

When you keep on taking actions or making decisions based on obsession, it becomes a habit, thereby shielding your mind from acknowledging that it is now an obsession.

Is it a bad thing? Yes, when unchecked!

How?

Other aspects of your life suffer as your mind is only motivated and triggered to take action fast only when it concerns the thing you are obsessed with.

Some parents will prioritise their obsession over the needs in the home.

For example, he has just been paid, and the money was for school fees. On his way from work, he sees an expensive shoe/clothes/wristwatch/ jewelry, depending on his obsessions, he buys it and tells himself that he would find a way to pay the fees another time.

Again, when your obsession becomes known by those around you, it gives them an edge to manipulate you.

Someone is trying to make a kill from a deal and then he is directed to you. Why? Because they know it is your obsession and so you won’t have the mental strength to haggle the price. Just a little dangling of the item in your face, you have fallen head over heels looking for all means to afford it.

Obsession makes it easy for others to take advantage of you.

That thing you think is part of you, look deeply and be truthful to yourself, it is an obsession. The motivating factor is deep down in your heart and it is always related to your past.

Let the past be lost in history and stop punishing the future and the present for happenings in the past.

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About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

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