Motivational Series

Retrogressive Actions- 3

Retrogressive Actions-3

By Idede Oseyande

Trends determined Actions.

Bola was a promising young mother of three with a supportive husband of her dreams. Everything was going well until she became a victim of trends.

It all started gradually when she began making decisions based on trends. She would make her hair on weekends only to get to the office on Monday morning to find out a new hairstyle is trending. She will drive straight to the saloon without considering the cost of making the hair and then make the trending one.

“I can’t be left behind” was her usual response when asked the reason for such actions. She pulled her three kids from the private school they had been attending for over five years because she heard there was a new school in town that is now in vogue. The distance of the new school to her home and the over a hundred percent increase in the fees from what they pay in their formal school was immaterial to her.

When she refused to give heed to reasonable appeal from Dayo, her husband of fifteen years, he quietly disabled his contributions to the family joint account. He could no longer stand working hard only for the wife to be spending it on frivolities.

That did not still send the needed caution. “I have male colleagues who earn lesser than me and still cater for their families” she had boasted. Dayo, being a man of few words did not bother to reply to her.

His pain was the way she was raising their children with that same mindset.

The eldest child, Fisayo, came back from school one day and said she would not go to school the next day unless her mum increases the daily money given to her, as she was mocked by her friends in school for bringing only five hundred naira daily.

Since such a request would earn her a slap from her father, she took the appeal to the mother. As usual, Bola doubled the money. Her daughter must not be treated as a pauper when she was still alive, she said.

Not quite long, she was neck-deep in debts. She owed every member of her family a certain amount, in her workplace and the Church she rubbed everyone who came close to her with her debts.

She did not know the weight of her actions despite the debts until she came home one day and saw a divorce note. Dayo was leaving her and was proposing to take the two boys while she stay with the girl and keep the house. Before her very eyes, she saw her entire world crumble.


Victims of trends are all around us. The only condition that determines their choice of products and services is to confirm if it is what is in vogue. Durability, quality, value, financial standing, all is inconsequential as long as it is what is in vogue, they will go all out, even if it means running into debts.

When you go with trends and rely completely on them in decision-making, it is like outsourcing your sense of reasoning. You will just be going with the mob, and you will not have the uniqueness that singles out people for greatness.

You must dare to be different. It is not everything you flow with the mob.

The majority is controlled by a handful of people.

The fact that it is mob action does not mean it was a mob decision.

Be wise!

Whatsapp 08035216938


About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform ( where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

Leave a Comment