Retrogressive Actions– 2
Coercion Instigated Actions
“And she said unto him, How canst thou say, I love thee, when thine heart is not with me? thou hast mocked me these three times, and hast not told me wherein thy great strength lieth.
That he told her all his heart, and said unto her, There hath not come a razor upon mine head; for I have been a Nazarite unto God from my mother’s womb: if I be shaven, then my strength will go from me, and I shall become weak, and be like any other man.” Judges 16:15-17 (KJV)
The excerpt above is from the popular biblical story of Samson. For those familiar with the story, you will recall that Samson decided to reveal his secret to his lover, Delilah, out of coercion. This was a mistake that cost him his life and ministry.
Just like in the days of Samson, the situation is still the same today. Many times we take decisions against our will, succumbing to peer pressures, marital pressures, societal pressures, etc. Ironically, when push comes to shove, or things start to crumble, those who once coerced you to take such decisions will not be there to bear the brunt of the actions you took.
If you try to drag them into the mess or make them share the responsibility of fixing the mess your actions created, they will be quick to remind you that they did not force you to take the decision. Or they did not put a gun to your head when you took the actions.
If it goes well who will be the biggest beneficiary me or the person coercing me?
If it goes wrong who will bear the brunt me or the person coercing me?
If the answers to both questions make me the major recipient of the result of that action (whether good or bad), I make sure that I shut out the influence of that coercion and take action based on my terms and understanding of the situation.
You must learn to make a conscious effort not to take any action or make decisions due to coercion.
It is twice as painful when you are suffering from an action you took based on coercion. To avoid such disappointment and heartbreak, shield yourself from coercive forces.