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Retrogressive Actions- 1

Retrogressive Actions- 1

By Idede Oseyande

Anger Propelled Actions

Previously I have dealt extensively with actions that lead to progress. Howbeit, there is a need to let you know that some actions can be retrogressive.

Let me explain with an abridged version of the story from S.M.O Aka’s book, “My Father’s Car”.

A businessman and a civil servant were neighbours in a particular compound in southwestern Nigeria. One weekend, the businessman drove home a brand new car. It was the first and only car in the whole compound. Everyone came out to admire the car. This was in the days when cars were rare just like private jets in this present time.

The wife and the children of this businessman were extremely proud and happy. They were now car owners, the only car owner in the street and a brand new car for that matter.

About a month later, the child of the civil servant was playing around the new car, and as children would always do, he scratched the new car, creating a dent in it.

When the businessman saw the dent, hell broke loose.

“Who is this unfortunate bastard that has dented my car? Can your father’s ten years salary buy this kind of car?” he screamed.

The boy’s mother overheard the insults and came out of the house to reply to the man. While they exchanged insults, the wife of the businessman came out to face the pauper insulting her dearly beloved husband, the only man with a car in the whole street.

A fight broke out between the two women and while the women were slugging it out, the civil servant returned from work and met them. Before you know it, the men took over the fight, and it soon became a free for all wrestlemania!

“Is it because of this useless car you won’t allow peace in this compound?”

“In ten years you still can’t afford a car like this”

“Ten years, you say? I will shock you!”

“I dare you! In ten years you can’t afford it, I did not put water in my mouth to say it”.

“We shall see!”

A fortnight later, the civil servant brought home a car. It was a secondhand car, but a car after all.

His wife and children came out with joy to celebrate their own car. Whether brand new or not, it was a car!

The next Sunday, the children were dressed earlier than usual for church service. It was their first Sunday in their father’s car. They were all seated beautifully dressed for church but the car refused to respond when their father tried to ignite the engine. After several attempts, they shamefully resorted to pushing the car. Unfortunately, the engine still refused to respond accordingly.

Their neighbour came out to mock them as they were sweating it out. “Second-hand car, help me push am”, they sang along as the other family tried in vain to ignite the car.


The civil servant took the wrong decision in buying that car. This is usually the case when you take action out of anger. It will most likely be ill-conceived and the execution will be flawed. In anger, you will not have the emotional stability to make well-informed decisions.

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About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform ( where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

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