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Never Give-In To Despair!

Written by Idede Oseyande

Never Give-In To Despair!

“It is always darkest before dawn”

On Monday this week, I logged into my Facebook account and the very first post that caught my attention was a post made by someone who in all indices is a social media force, considering the followership of the individual. I was worried about the content of the post. It was oozing of hopelessness. I tried to read the details of the post, perhaps it is just emotional vituperation. Alas, it was not. Instead, it was aimed at emphasising how difficult and tough this year would be. The comments session too followed the same pattern, as the mob kept attacking the year 2020 as if it was an entity they could charge to court🤷🏾‍♂️.

That’s not the kind of post one would want to start his day with, so I scrolled down and then I saw the post of a pastor friend of mine who was praying for a member of his church that just got a new car. Ordinarily, I would have passed the post without giving it a second look, but not on a day like that, when I needed positive energy to start my day.

Despair has a way of sapping you of good and productive initiatives. Initiatives, which if followed would change the course of your story are often abandoned during despair.

This time last year, 2019, I was directionless. With a plan that fell through in 2018 and the back up also packing up, I was on autopilot mode. So many times hopelessness sweeps through my mind sapping me of the strength to stay strong. To save myself of constant worry, I consoled myself that it is a year of ‘#sowing’. At least that would give me respite from the constant heartaches and allow the year to go peacefully. In the midst of all this, I never stopped writing.

In July, I took a loan of fifty thousand from our savings to pay for an online class. I did not tell her it was for an online coaching, else she would have counted it as a luxury. (For those who are married, you know what that means). The class finally started and within the first month, everything I was taught was what I earlier knew.
Now, I started to think about the many things I could have used that money for, instead of wasting it for a “useless” coaching lesson.

In August, the coach became very busy and was technically unavailable. He would drop the lessons on the platform and leave us to interpret the messages ourselves. That feeling when it seems you have spent your money on something worthless came over me.

At a point, I said to myself, “did they not say repetition is for emphasis? If this coach is teaching me what I already know, that means the problem is not the #knowledge but the #action”.
I went back to my desk and told my wife that I would be launching two books before the year runs out. This was in September, for crying out loud!🤦🏿‍♂

I contacted the publisher and we had a lengthy discussion. I have over five unpublished manuscripts and the choice of which to publish now became a subject of concern. I went back to the coaching course and checked some guidelines in that regard. And that was how I settled for “The #Portrait of A #Revolutionary Leader” and “#Warri No Dey Carry #Last”.

You might be wondering how someone who borrowed fifty thousand to pay for a class in July, went ahead to publish two books with a production cost in millions?🤷🏽‍♂

That’s the main part of the story. It happened because I learnt to keep my head above the water and listen to the voice of inspiration and not of despair.
A good swimmer enjoys the water, with his whole body immersed in it, while a bad swimmer is busy fighting the water in despair, scared of sinking. If only he knows the inspiration he could draw from the serenity of a body fully immersed in water.

No matter what the numbers are saying, no matter the indices used to defend the statistics, never give in to despair.

With all the available data that they have, they never saw #coronavirus coming in this format. That tells you that their information is not infallible. In the midst of the prophesied doom, you can break forth this very year!

Life is a long marathon and only those who are resilient in spirit can emerge victoriously.

Don’t throw caution in the air, but do not develop high blood pressure in the name of being cautious.

I leave you with these words: “#worry is the #interest paid in advance for something you may never own”.

Now wear a smile of triumph like me!✌🏾✌🏾

E go be! ✌🏿✌🏿

IDEDE Oseyande

About the author

Idede Oseyande

IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.

He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.

Among his published works are 'What is Left of What is Right?', 'The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader' and 'Warri No Dey Carry Last'.

He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.

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