What Is Your Strength?
(Lessons from Game of Thrones)
No one can be taller than you and still be shorter than you at the same time. And no one can be richer than you and still be poorer than you at the same time. That means you definitely have something the other person does not have. The person does not have your shortness and your poverty, and that could be your strength if you can build on it.
In the movie, ‘Game of Thrones’, the dwarf, Tyrion Lannister was often despised, mocked, and even hated by some for his size. Unfortunately, he was born in an era when the strength of a ‘real’ man was measured by his ability to use the sword to fight. This is because that was the only way to defend himself and his family. With his size beyond his control, his hope of competing with the conventional standard as a swordsman was dead on arrival. He was half the size of all the men in his community, so who would he possibly defeat in a sword fight?
But then he learnt early enough to work on his strength, and that was his mind. He was physically disadvantaged and would have been a disaster if he was mentally handicapped too. Since he could not use the sword, he spent time other boys were using to train their muscles, to train his mind. He invested his time in reading books! He studied human psychology and worked on his oratory prowess. As he grew older, that became his strength. More than once he saved himself from danger with the power of his mouth. He was good at talking his way out of trouble.
Most times, we dwell too much on our disadvantages and fail to see the advantages that we have. Tyrion could have given up in despair as he was not a match for any of his mates. He could have been consumed by envy for his elder brother, and become a jester as most dwarfs in his time were used for. But he created his own path, he developed his strength to make himself a better person. And that earned him a position to be the ‘Hand of the King’ for two different rulers. Not because he lobbied for it, but because of his competence!
You’re poor and jobless, yes, I know. But you can’t be jobless, and not have spare time. So how are you using your free time? Are you using it to prepare yourself for an opportunity in the future or you’re spending it daily, whining and complaining over your predicaments? Your free time is your advantage, use it wisely. Give volunteering services and help others. In the process, you learn new things and build new connections. You never can tell how far that can help you!
You have a strength, find it, understand it, develop it, fine-tune it, and then wait patiently for good fortune to smile on you!
Those lofty dreams can still be achieved if you refuse to live in despair and self-torment.
IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.
He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.
Among his published works are ‘What is Left of What is Right?’, ‘The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader’ and ‘Warri No Dey Carry Last’.
He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.