A Letter To The Undepressed
Dear Undepressed, let me first and foremost, congratulate you for being undepressed despite the high level of uncertainty, hardship, hunger, and hopelessness, experienced in the country today.
In the midst, of it all, you’ve been able to weather the storm and emerge strong and undepressed. You deserve an applaud!👏🏾👏🏾
Howbeit, I have a few things against you. If you recall, in my last letter to the #depressed, I recommended that they should always seek help from you, instead of committing #suicide. But recent reports from the depressed have shown that you are a major part of the problem.
Surprised right? I was too when I heard the complaint. But trust me, I studied the report before I decided to write you this letter.
The depressed have made me understand that you knowingly or unknowingly fuel their desire to give up in life, by your actions and inaction. You owe them nothing, they understand that. But their gross is that you should not be standing as if you’re bringing succour when you are actually giving them a rope to hang themselves.
For example, barely a year after Mr Ojo got married, he met Peter, his former colleague on his way and the following discussion ensued:
Peter: Ojo congratulations once again for the success of your wedding.
Ojo: Thank you very much, bro.
Peter: How are your wife and children?
Ojo: Wife is fine, no children yet.
Peter: (Looking sternly at him) Haba, no children yet? No, that one is not acceptable ooooh. You should have scored two by now, or you don’t know how to shoot?
Ojo: (Feigning a smile) When the time comes, the children will come.
Peter: Nor talk that one ooooh, the time us now. Abegi go fire that woman and score goal.
Unknown to him that Ojo is just coming from the hospital where his wife had been diagnosed with fibroid. Does he think he wants the children more than the couples themselves?
Even recently, a friend of mine was describing a location for me, and from the way he was saying it, it sounded as if I was driving down. So I told him, ‘just tell me how to get there by public transport, I don’t have a car’. Surprising, he responded; “guy you never still get a car? No na, you can’t be trekking at this stage of your life, please go and get a car”.
I paused for a moment, replayed what he just said, and asked him, “did you tell me before I bought the clothes I wear? He said No. Did you tell me before I bought the shoes I am putting on? He said, No.
Did you tell me to get food before I get food to eat? He said, No. So I asked, why are you telling me that I am trekking too much? Or you think if I could afford a good car now, I would jettison the idea because I love trekking?
You see, every adult knows what is good for them. That man you’re pushing to get married has just been jilted by his longtime girlfriend, and he is silently fighting heartbreak, while you’re calling him an ‘irresponsible man’, and urging him to get married.
In addition to that, you celebrate your victories boisterously, telling your friends and colleagues of how life has been very fair to you. And when such a friend runs to you for help, with the confidence that life is better at your end, you turn them down.
You remember to always call them to come to celebrate your wins, thereby making them see reasons why they should hang themselves, as they are just existing and not living. And when they do your bidding, by taking their lives, you feign ignorance of their predicament, claiming that they never spoke up.
The few times they made a request, what was your reply?
Did you not start lecturing them on how you’re self-made?
Of how you are hardworking, industrious, and prayerful?
Did you not make them look so dump to have ended up a failure?
I know you might not know all this, that’s why I chose to address it in this letter.
I would have shared more of their complaints, but you know I hate long letters, and the Holy Bible says, “a word is enough for the wise”.
So I will end it here, with the belief that things would improve going forward.
Meanwhile, play #Patoranking “Nobody when nor fit to make am”, to cool off this Sunday morning.
Until I write again, let your words be #seasoned with #salt, for the graceful #edification and #motivation of your neighbour!
SayNoToSuicide #SpeakUp #SuicideIsNotAnOption #SuicideNotAPlan #SuicideIsNotPeace #KeepHopeAlive
IDEDE Oseyande, a graduate of the Federal University of Technology, Akure, is an unrepentant believer in the Nigeria project.
His concern for the actualisation of a prosperous nation and the continent, in general, is reflected in his written works.
He currently runs an online advocacy platform (www.socialwatchdog.ng) where he engages the government and the people.
Among his published works are ‘What is Left of What is Right?’, ‘The Portrait of a Revolutionary Leader’ and ‘Warri No Dey Carry Last’.
He is a guest writer for several blogs and his Attitudinal and Behavioral Coaching classes has transformed many lives.